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Zoe

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    Day 12: Did another driving lesson with my friend. About two hours worth of driving around parking lots and less busy streets. It was good! A little stressful at times when I was going pretty fast, but it helped when I realized I wasn't breathing (I was holding my breath a bunch) and focused on remembering to breathe when I turned, or when I switched from gas to brake.
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    Day 11: Drove around the block again, by myself, and there were a few other cars on the road. Limbs are pretty shaky but I'm also psyched to be making more progress. Scheduled another driving lesson with my friend tomorrow.
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    Day 10: Went to a mall parking lot and drove around for about an hour. The first rotation was more stressful than the second few rotations... But I got some good practice driving around other cars, parking, and driving around pedestrians. I'd say overall good!
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    Day 9: went out late this time, after it was already dark. Sat for about a song's worth of time, realized I don't know how to turn on the lights! So that's next for tomorrow haha. Got a couple e-books on driving phobia and looked through one of them today. Tomorrow a friend of mine is going to give me a driving lesson, so that'll be nice.
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    Day 8: It was snowing like crazy when I got home, but I turned on the car, found the windshield wiper controls, listened to a song in there on the radio with the engine going. It's less than previous days, but I'm happy that I'm not losing overall momentum. I think as long as I do something towards this every day, I'll still be making progress ultimately.
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    Day 7: this time I drove in the afternoon and was feeling stressed about the other cars on the road, so I just pulled out into the alley, then back into the drive like yesterday. It always seems so intimidating and impossible before I actually get in the car, and it's really stressful to think that maybe this day is the one where I give up and stop trying to improve at this. I did ask a friend of mine to drive with me this weekend, so I'm hoping that will help me keep moving forward. Even though I wish my progress were more linear and smooth, I'm really glad I am at least getting behind the wheel every day, even if only for a minute or two. Something is better than nothing, and I can build on the comfort and familiarity as time goes on.
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    Day 6: All day I felt really drained, so I put off driving until about 3:30 pm this time. I went easy on myself and just did what I did on Day 1 (pull out of the driveway and recenter, then park again). Admittedly it's a little disappointing not to surpass yesterday's driving 'level', but I think it'll ultimately be more sustainable if I focus on just being consistent, not expecting more than just to build my comfort level with driving and do it every day. I realized that if I knew there would never be another driver on the road, I don't think I'd fear driving at all! But trying to figure out the social rules and expectations of driving around other people really stresses me out. Annoying strangers is probably pretty risk-free like 95% of the time, but it is still hard for me to stomach. Add to that the very real concerns about dangerous and costly accidents, and it's not surprising that dealing with this fear is pretty exhausting.
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    Day 5 I went out early (9 am) but not so early that there weren't cars on the road this time. I did the same route as yesterday but there were a few cars to consider--three of them. I think it went really well. I didn't go at a four-way stop right away even though I got there first (had to be kind of waved ahead by someone) but I think that was okay. My heart is definitely beating pretty fast and my arms are shaking. I'm happy though; I think in time this won't be so stressful. I felt more confident on my turns than prior days.
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    Day 4: Went out pretty early (7:30 am) on a Sunday so that no one would be on the road with me, and drove around the block. Didn't have anyone with me in the car this time. My hands are still shaking! But it was okay. Again I was most nervous before I got in the car. I walked the route I was going to take first, planning how I'd take the turns and also just making sure I knew what to expect. Before going out I had a few anxious thoughts about hitting another (parked) car, or even getting pulled over. But that was the first complete circuit, so I'm pretty pleased.
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    Day 3 I did indeed start earlier, did my driving practice around 10 am. It helped to get it out of the way before I could freak myself out throughout the day. Pulled out of the parking spot and all the way down the ally, then got out and swapped with my husband. Felt okay during and afterward, although this morning I was anxious, but not as bad as yesterday.
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    Okay, Day 2 (Jan 10th). I felt very anxious from the time I woke up until actually driving (did that around 4:30 pm), and like yesterday, I felt worst before actually getting in the car. So one strategy I might want to employ in the future would be to push driving practice earlier, so I don't spend so much of the day dreading it! This time I pulled out into the ally behind my house, then re-centered the car and parked again. Felt pretty okay about it. I felt awful beforehand though, worse than yesterday. Thoughts of getting lost or stranded, the car breaking down, or being in an accident definitely were intruding. I know this forum isn't in heavy use or anything, but I hope it's clear that if anyone else wants to track their progress in this same thread, please do!! Even the illusion of being held accountable for my progress by strangers on the internet is weirdly helpful to me.
  12. Hello! I was thinking it would be helpful for me to keep track of my progress here, and maybe other people would like to do the same? I've been struggling with a fear of driving pretty much since starting to drive at 15 (almost 30 now!) and I'm hoping I can start making driving a more regular and comfortable part of my life and get all the cool benefits that come with it. I'm calling this Day 1 (Jan 9th 2020). I was planning to just turn on the car and sit there for a few seconds, then turn it off. But I felt a bit emboldened so I backed out of the drive about a foot and then pulled back in. The most anxiety I felt was before actually getting in the car, just thinking about driving again. Once in the car I felt okay, even a little excited to be trying again. Also I made a list of reasons why I want to be more comfortable driving, which was helpful I think.
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